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September 04 After the "intervention"There are certain things that come up in my life - that once scheduled in my date book - becomes a looming dark cloud. The closer the date gets....the darker the cloud gets and the more nervous I get. It's not until that date comes and goes that I feel I can fully relax again and get back to "normal". Today's "cloud" - was what my son's middle school calls, an "intervention". My husband did not like that term and as he put it....WE already did the intervening. He is right. The school did not do a whole lot last year to help the situation.....but I have to keep in mind that their job is to teach and that is getting considerably more difficult in school systems like ours. We live in a poor school district and with it comes the children of the poor. They live difficult lives and they take their frustrations out in what they consider a "safe" place - they feel empowered there I think. Last year was a vicious cycle of Tyler getting picked on, Tyler retaliating and getting caught doing it and getting suspended and getting pissed off about it - (a bad cocktail of his meds wasn't helping) and then Tyler being so sidetracked by all of this crap and anger, he could not and would not learn. A summer of hospitalization for med adjustments, intense therapy, tutoring and a new discipline plan at home has made a world of difference. Problem is....the damage was done last year. With a possible expulsion looming the final few days of school last year, this "intervention" was already set in motion for the next school year. It was what he got INSTEAD of expelled. Back in early June it felt heaven sent. However after meeting with the "intervention team" it was very clear to everyone.....well.....ALMOST everyone.....that Tyler had gotten himself together and the one major problem remaining was still the "bullying". His ONLY issue so far this year....and he has handled it fine so far....but you can only be pushed so far.....
This boy Chris was a problem for Tyler last year and was on his "team" in school meaning they shared 3 of the same teachers. Thank God that Tyler only has to deal with him on the bus this year and not in class. Tyler actually seems to enjoy school this year, is actually trying to maintain his good grades and the teachers tell us he is very respectful and very friendly with all of his classmates. All of these things were lacking last year. His only problem is on the bus. Tom's been to the school twice, called once and talked to the bus driver once - and still nothing. Today after spending much of the "intervention" touting Tyler's achievements.....not the usual intervention I'm assuming.....we directed the focus back where we thought it should go. ESPECIALLY after the not-so-bright guidance counselor suggested that we just drive Tyler back and forth to school so that he can avoid the situation. It took a couple minutes of agreeing that yes we could do that and that would indeed solve the problem.....for TYLER....but what about the other kids on the bus??? This Chris and his little gang of hoodlums do not just pick on him.....his rhyme on the bus - that he actually says in a sing-song voice Tyler tells us?....EENIE MEENIE MINIE MOE......WHO'S GONNA BE MY BUS HOE?....and he picks someone to pick on. Give me a break.....get this kid off the bus. AND the guidance counselor then tells us that Tyler's bus is one of the BETTER ones!!! UMMMM.....this is how children get back and forth to SCHOOL to LEARN!!! NOBODY should have to endure that!!! He flicks Tom and I the bird when we stand outside waiting for Tyler - to hear what is being yelled at him as he gets off the bus and walks up the drive.....we've heard him yell....."Look at the little white boy run", "BITCH", "F-bombs left and right", inappropriate comments to me - I don't go out anymore. It's just ridiculous. He throws things at kids - yesterday it was pop-tarts at a friend of Tyler's (he's a pretty big boy) and made embarrassing comments to him about his weight.....something about his "big ass". I guess David....Tyler's friend had enough - retaliated, got caught and got suspended. Chris the bully? He's still on the bus. No suspension. WTF?! When I'm done with this....it's a call to the transportation department. The school tells us that would be our next best step. I wanted SO bad to tell them what I thought THEIR next best step would be....but I am a parent and supposedly a lady.
 All I know is that if this doesn't work....Chris had better be getting an "intervention" or Tom and I may have to intervene .... and that just wouldn't turn out well.....for anybody.  Ah well, cloud has passed.....actually it's been a rather "cloudy" couple weeks.....but the horizon is pretty much so clear now so, I'm relaxing a little. The next date of semi-cloudiness isn't until October 1st I guess as of right now....the trip to the specialist about my liver. Oh yeah.....there is the 29th. of September....a date with yet unknown significance.....but according to my friend Sassy.....it's not good. Praying for that day to come and go without incident.....but with Sassene.....she's often right about such things.....
 Until then....I'm going to enjoy what normalcy there is in each day and try not to dwell on the future to much. I wish you all the same. Comments (3)
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